I Love My Kid, But I Don't Always Like Him
Updated: Sep 21, 2020
Don’t act like you don’t feel the same way. There’s isn’t a mom alive who can say she likes her kids ALL of the time. If there is, she’s a liar and can’t be trusted! My own mom has always and still does tell my sister and me when she doesn’t like us…so, I know this is an every mom feeling! LOL!
I have a 2 year old little boy. I love him with everything in me, but there are times when he is the worst version of himself, and I don’t like him. At all. Not one piece of his cute little self do I like in these moments. Nothing. Not a thing. I understand that he is just a 2 year old little boy and has all of these crazy emotions running through his tiny body that he can’t quite control right now. I get it, and I love him. But, I do not like him in these moments, and I do not have to like him in these moments.
For the past 2 days, I have liked my child for a total of about 58 minutes, and I do not feel guilty about it. Those 58 minutes were so magical and full of bliss! It’s been a rough 2 days for our relationship, but we’ve pushed through and are taking it day-by-day. We are …co-existing, and our love for each other grows stronger each day! You know how this is!
During these times of irreconcilable differences, I have learned a few tips and tricks to help guide me back to liking my kid:
1. Love them through it! This speaks for itself. Love conquers all even if you at your wits end and feel like throwing yourself into a closet and locking the door. If that’s what it takes, DO IT! He/she will be right outside that door waiting on you when you emerge. I promise. My Nolan Grey is ALWAYS right there...waiting for me.
2. Patience my dear. I know this is the hardest thing in the world to do, but you can do it. This is your superpower mommy. You will always win; even when it doesn’t look like it, feel like it, or when you are actually losing, your kid doesn’t know that! You are way smarter than they ever think they will be! All they want is for you to rescue them from the crazy they are currently taking out on you.
3. Use the calm, cool, you don’t know if you’re crazy and neither do your kids voice. You know the voice. Your mom still uses it on you…mine sure does. It’s a classic, and it works! My 2 year old stops, cocks his little head to the side, holds out his hands and says, in the sweetest voice ever, “Mommy, pit up? Peas?” I melt, and all of the like comes rushing back. How can I not like him after that?
It is okay Mommy! These days will happen more often than we’d like, but we will prevail! We’re Superheroes! And Superheroes ALWAYS win!
~The Fit Mom